Let not a woman force a man, in the name of modernity, to go to the kitchen. Let not a man insist that a woman supports him in paying the bills. If your man decides not to lift a finger in the kitchen, it is no excuse to starve him and your household. If your wife decides to spend all her money on herself...well it’s your duty as a man to still provide for the home.
However, as a sign of support and show of consideration, in a very demanding society where work and financial pressure on couples means we cannot compartmentalize and segment our traditional offices, let a man help his wife in the home keeping duties when she is overwhelmed. Let him help with conflicting pressing needs like the kids, dinner and carry-home office work. In the same vain, let the woman be discerning enough, knowing and being willing to help the man out in times of financial crunch when it comes to the bills and other household expenses. Let her learn to throw in her dime or pesewa into the family money box.
Society has a name for a man who is always in the kitchen and woman whose husband is always in the kitchen while she watches telenovela. And they have a name for a man whose wife pays all the bills and a woman who pays all the bills while her hubby loiter around.
The home is a shared and balanced responsibility. Couples need to come to terms with this reality and help each other along the way.
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