Building Relationships We Can All Be Proud Of

Wednesday, 4 September 2013


 Keep your ex at a good distance. There is a reason why they are not in your present life. Concentrate on the future you are building in the present and do not be entangled in the dramas of yesterday.

If you are still hooked on to your ex, then you are not fit to be in the relationship or marriage you find yourself in now and you are a traitor to your current partner. It does not matter what led to the break up; a break up is a break up and it is cute to know there is absolutely nothing your butterflied tummy can do about it. Deal with it and let the man or woman go. Cut the umbilical cord; cut them loose or both of you will plunge into the abyss below. You are going nowhere with this sentimental nonsense...Seriously.

A responsible person takes a decision and lives with the consequences. It is only a fool who does not change their mind...true...but this is one heck of an exception you need to make to that rule....remember to every rule there is an exception... aaahhh there... I know you are smart.

What do you mean by you and your ex are good friends? Really? Like good friends do not get upset and walk away over trivia, they do not get cranky and leave you 'cus of distance, they do not abuse and lie to you, they do not have other best friends behind friends who most often seem important than you. They do not come to you with hit-and-run-come-and-hit-more-and-run-faster attitude! Name the drama category and I can tell you good friends don't give it! I do not mean you and your ex should be in a hostile cat-and-mouse, I just don't like one of you treating the other like a sweet cute pussycat! If that is what you wanted you should have overlooked your differences and stuck together. There is is nothing impossible, only a bunch of people scared to pay the ultimate price! What right do you have, after they have moved on, poking your spiky self into the life they are starting with someone else? You know what, we are tired of your face! Abracadabra, touch a leaf and poof into thin air!

I don't mind if you want to keep your ex as a trophy, only do not complain when your partner also keeps theirs as a trophy too. Maybe you and your ex are really cool and there is no cause for alarm; I hope you can say the same about her ex boyfriend who owns three hotels and drives a Range Rover and is making it explicitly clear to you if he gets the chance he will hit it again! I hope you won't mind him always being on the phone with his 'Megan Good' Ex....if not then stay off and let them also stay off. What is good for the geese is clearly good for the gander! 

Keep calm and show your ex the red card; they must miss the rest of the tournament. That is the rule applicable to those who do not play by the rules.

Yes, I know it is easier said than done and the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak... God can empower you to do this if you really are bent on doing it. Pray for strength and grace to look left when they show up at the right side...not to press the green button to pick their calls or call them.... to restrain your fingers from delving into any tempting chats... to look them in the eyes and decline the date, offers and companionship.

An ex is one major anchor that keeps many lives from moving on! Watch it! 

PG Sebastian
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