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Wednesday, 1 September 2010


Beware not to make anyone/anything indispensable in your life. When you start seeing anything as indispensable, you become dependent on it; your potential innovation, success story, ability to stand out and make a difference, or survive in life is curtailed. You end up living someone's dreams and you miss an opportunity to stand on your feet and live your dreams 

Your Job, life partner, family, social status, can go at anytime. If you always see them as something you cannot do without, chances are that when they are not there, your very world would come to an end.

Do not live in anticipation that you will lose your job, you partner will die or leave you, or your family will break-up anytime; these can depress you and make you take unnecessary contingencies. However a healthy knowledge of the possibility of losing your job, will help you save some money or develop yourself while doing your current job, so that if that day ever comes, you can cope well or quickly adjust and move on.

A healthy knowledge that you can lose a partner through death or a break-up will help you give them the love, respect and support they need now so there will be no regrets when they are no longer there; the emotional strength to move if those things ever happen; and the material/financial preparations so you don't drop from grace to grass overnight.

A healthy knowledge that you will lose your family or friends would always push you to build what bears your name and help you make your own mark instead of living your life under an umbrella mark and not individual mark. It will push you to give them the love they need today, the courage and confidence to move on tomorrow when necessary and the possibility of survival in your world alone. Alone we came, alone we will go. 

I know of people who moved from grace to grass when they lost their jobs and did not have any savings nor any special skill that could get them employed elsewhere; Families that broke up instantly because the source of bread left; weak  members of a partnership  who went under when the partnership ended. 

You should move on and do well when things change. Life is dynamic and change is a constant part of our humanity. If we remember this, it becomes easy for us to move on when we are met with these changes. 

We find ourselves lost in the wilderness when we make people/things indispensable in our lives.

Bless you